The Handbook of Men

    Compensating a bit

    Men have unspoken, unwritten rules.
    These rules should be common sense. These rules should be in stone these rules need not be passed on from real men to other real men.

    Taking the Brutal out of Honesty

    Phrases like, “brutally honest,” and “truth hurts,” have become common clichés and we have heard it so much, we believe it. Being “brutally honest” has become somewhat of a compliment in our society. They are deemed a “straight shooter” or are admired for how well they “speak their mind.” Why is this trait considered desirable or a positive attribute? Do we really want everyone around us speaking what is truly on their minds? Richard J. Needham said, “People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty.” It’s a poignant truth. Think for a moment what it means to be “brutally honest.”

    The Burden of Life

    Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see. ~Neil Postman, The Disappearance of Childhood (introduction), 1982. I think in my eyes of a child, I saw her as old, outdated, and confused. She never seemed to understand the world in which we lived. She had a rotary phone for decades after push buttons became available. She called a cell phone a “cell-a-phone,” and thought the TV was of the devil (she was Pentecostal – the orthodox type). She lived in a simple 3 room house my entire life, and never had central air conditioning or heating. Her driving scared me to death long before I ever knew the rules of the road. She believed in prayer for everything.

    The Secret to Success

    You will not find success in the form of a gift wrapped box handed over for your delight. There is no success to be found in a gift. To truly understand success, you have to be will to work, and work hard. I think that even people who get to experience success even once in a lifetime understand the basic notion that success isn’t granted, it’s earned.